when i add php (or mysql support to php, i'm not really sure) into apache, it's segfaulting. to make in more interesting, when i run apache without, php it's ok,
if i then uncomment php loading options, it runs....

./configure  --prefix=$(PHP_DIR) \
--exec-prefix=$(PHP_DIR) \
--with-config-file-path=$(APACHE_DIR)/conf \
--with-apxs=$(APACHE_DIR)/bin/apxs \
--with-mysql=$(MYSQL_DIR) \
--with-zlib=$(ZLIB_DIR) \
--with-gd=$(GD_DIR) \
--with-gettext=$(GETTEXT_DIR) \
--with-ldap=$(OPENLDAP_DIR) \
--enable-memory-limit \
--enable-sysvsem \
--enable-sysvshm \
--enable-magic-quotes \
--enable-memory-limit \
--enable-track-vars; \

gdb backtrace:
#0  0x4000a6d1 in _dl_debug_state () at dl-debug.c:56
#1  0x4017d4e6 in _dl_close (map=0x80cc418) at dl-close.c:195
#2  0x4009e0c0 in dlclose_doit (handle=0x80cc418) at dlclose.c:26
#3  0x4000a3eb in _dl_catch_error (errstring=0x4009fd00, operate=0x4009e0a8 <dlclose_doit>, args=0x80cc418)
    at dl-error.c:141
#4  0x4009e549 in _dlerror_run (operate=0x4009e0a8 <dlclose_doit>, args=0x80cc418) at dlerror.c:125
#5  0x4009e08e in dlclose (handle=0x80cc418) at dlclose.c:32
#6  0x8070430 in ap_os_dso_unload ()
#7  0x804fbd0 in unload_module ()
#8  0x80519de in run_cleanups ()
#9  0x80501fd in ap_clear_pool ()
#10 0x8060633 in standalone_main ()
#11 0x8060ed9 in main ()
#12 0x400b81eb in __libc_start_main (main=0x8060b8c <main>, argc=2, argv=0xbffff944, 
    init=0x804f1d0 <_init>, fini=0x8096d2c <_fini>, rtld_fini=0x4000a610 <_dl_fini>, stack_end=0xbffff93c)
    at ../sysdeps/generic/libc-start.c:90

strace:
open("./php3.ini", O_RDONLY)            = -1 ENOENT (No such file or directory)
open("/php3.ini", O_RDONLY)             = -1 ENOENT (No such file or directory)
open("/usr/local/stow/apache/conf/php3.ini", O_RDONLY) = 6
ioctl(6, TCGETS, 0xbfffc6d4)            = -1 ENOTTY (Inappropriate ioctl for device)
read(6, "", 8192)                       = 0
ioctl(6, TCGETS, 0xbfffc6c0)            = -1 ENOTTY (Inappropriate ioctl for device)
--- SIGSEGV (Segmentation fault) ---