Same issue here on OpenMandriva with MariaDB 10.3 -- attaching a patch that makes it build and essentially work, but I'm not sure I've handled the removal of st_mysql->reconnect correctly.

why don't you just build with mysqlnd - IMHO the libmysql stuff should have been removed from php many years ago

One reason not to use mysqlnd is --enable-embedded-mysqli -- other than that, mysqlnd should do the trick (but needs some testing on our side -- we know libmysql to work from years of using it).

we use mysqlnd since 2010 everywhere and i don't get why it should be a problem for mysqli - until you configure with shared both are directly in teh binary

[harry@srv-rhsoft:/lib64/php/modules]$ ls | grep mysql
-rwxr-xr-x 1 root root 131K 2018-04-07 19:33 mysqli.so
-rwxr-xr-x 1 root root 290K 2018-04-07 19:33 mysqlnd.so

For temporary solution: after configure open Makefile in root php src directory,look "-I/usr/include/mysql" and replace to "-I/usr/include/mysql/server".

This is also failing on FreeBSD. I attempted to manually patch 7.3.5 with the changes in the attached patch and compile from source without success.

I have MariaDB 10.2.22 installed.

Process:

1. Checkout git
2. git checkout php-7.3.5
3. ./buildconf --force
4. ./configure --prefix=/usr/local --with-layout=GNU --with-config-file-path=/usr/local/etc --with-config-file-scan-dir=/usr/local/etc/php --mandir=/usr/local/man --infodir=/usr/local/info/ --localstatedir=/var --enable-bcmath --enable-exif --enable-fpm --enable-ftp --enable-intl --enable-libxml --enable-mbstring --enable-mysqlnd --with-mysqli=/usr/local/bin/mysql_config --enable-pcntl --enable-soap --enable-sockets --enable-zip --with-bz2 --with-curl --with-fpm-user=www --with-fpm-group=www --with-freetype-dir=/usr/local --with-gd --with-gettext=/usr/local --with-iconv --with-jpeg-dir=/usr/local --with-libxml-dir=/usr/local --with-openssl --with-pdo-mysql=/usr/local --with-png-dir=/usr/local --with-sodium=/usr/local --with-zlib-dir=/usr --with-zlib=/usr

I get stuff like this

--- ext/mysqli/mysqli_api.lo ---
In file included from /home/human/tmp/php-src/ext/mysqli/mysqli_api.c:32:
In file included from ext/mysqli/php_mysqli_structs.h:61:
/usr/local/include/mysql/my_global.h:3:2: warning: This file should not be included by clients, include only <mysql.h> [-W#warnings]
#warning This file should not be included by clients, include only <mysql.h>
 ^
/home/human/tmp/php-src/ext/mysqli/mysqli_api.c:156:2: warning: format specifies type 'unsigned long' but the argument has type 'my_ulonglong' (aka 'unsigne
d long long') [-Wformat]
        MYSQLI_RETURN_LONG_INT(rc);
        ^~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
ext/mysqli/mysqli_priv.h:99:45: note: expanded from macro 'MYSQLI_RETURN_LONG_INT'

In file included from /home/human/tmp/php-src/ext/mysqli/mysqli_api.c:32:
In file included from ext/mysqli/php_mysqli_structs.h:77:
/usr/local/include/mysql/my_sys.h:3:2: warning: This file should not be included by clients, include only <mysql.h> [-W#warnings]
#warning This file should not be included by clients, include only <mysql.h>
 ^

Is this still an issue with any of the actively supported PHP
versions[1]?  If so, I suggest to submit a PR[2]?

[1] <https://www.php.net/supported-versions.php>
[2] <https://github.com/php/php-src/pulls>

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